I sat on a chair in my parents’ living room while my dad placed his hands on my head to give me a priesthood blessing at 23 years old. He didn’t know that two weeks before I had come out for the first time to my two best friends. He didn’t know that questions about my faith and my orientation were constantly swirling in my head. Then as he gave me the blessing he said, “You will be saved in the highest degree of the celestial kingdom.” I thought, Oh shoot! I know this might s

Passover just ended–a holiday thousands of years old celebrating the deliverance of the Israelites after 400 years of captivity in Egypt....

I have three degrees from BYU (which I lovingly refer to as my “three degrees of glory”) and I worked there as an Honor Code...

“Look around. Who needs you and your influence? If we really want to make a difference, it will happen as we mother those we have borne...

I have been so open and so public about my choice to be a single, openly gay Latter-day Saint that, to maintain a spirit of openness and...

In every relationship with someone I deeply love–parents, siblings, roommates, friends–I have hurt them or they have hurt me. When humans...

In the weeks since Charlie and Ryan publicly announced their engagement, I’ve received a lot of messages about their decision to get...

Normally my path never would have crossed with Charlie’s. We ran in different circles, had a ten year age gap, and had no overlapping...

Note: In May 2021 I was asked to speak to a Jewish audience about what it has been like for me to be a gay Latter-day Saint. The...

Last Friday I learned that my friend Alison had passed away earlier that morning. She was diagnosed with cancer just the week before and...

Alzheimer’s destroys a person slowly. The brain gradually builds up plaque and stops working little by little. It’s hard to notice the...

This is definitely an odd and awkward post to follow my previous post detailing all my same-sex romances (which totaled one and a...

On December 8, 2021 Tom Christofferson posted on Facebook that he was going to begin dating men while maintaining the same dating...

I share this story with Fred’s permission. This past summer a bishop contacted me and asked if I’d be willing to visit a member of his...

My dad doesn’t fly. He has really bad tinnitus--ringing in his ears--and he worries that flying could make something already unbearable...

For years I surrounded my secret in protective armor, afraid of letting anyone else see what I was hiding. Would they hate me as much as...

I totally have a crush on Sharon Eubank. My admiration for her deepened during her most recent General Conference talk when she said,...

I don't know about you, but I have a lot of experience being a jerk. I rarely behave like a jerk on purpose, it happens most frequently...

Disclaimer: Like all my posts, I speak only for myself here. I do not speak for my employer nor do I speak for other queer people...

Friday, September 4th, 2015 was one of the worst nights of life. My stake president called me unexpectedly. Over the past six months we...