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Telling My Gay Mormon Story
When church was over a young woman came over to me and thanked me for my testimony. She told me that she has a friend who’s a lesbian who...

Benjamin Schilaty
Aug 8, 20165 min read


Coast to Coast: The Endless End
Getting home after being gone for seven weeks proved to be much more difficult than I had anticipated. I got to LaGuardia airport...

Benjamin Schilaty
Jul 27, 20164 min read


Coast to Coast: Maine to New York
My mom, Lindsay, and I said farewell to Laura in a Chipotle parking lot in Bangor, Maine. We parted ways in a restaurant parking lot...

Benjamin Schilaty
Jul 26, 20163 min read


Coast to Coast: Nova Scotia to Maine
After Prince Edward Island we hopped back into Laura’s CR-V and drove to Nova Scotia. We weren’t particularly pumped for Nova Scotia like...

Benjamin Schilaty
Jul 23, 20163 min read


Coast to Coast: Prince Edward Island
After seeing Quebec City Laura, Lindsay, my mom, and I piled into Laura’s CR-V and we drove to Prince Edward Island. The drive was quite...

Benjamin Schilaty
Jul 21, 20163 min read


Coast to Coast: Vermont and Quebec City
After our visit to the birthplace of Mormonism Laura and I drove to Montpelier, Vermont to visit her brother and sister-in-law. This was...

Benjamin Schilaty
Jul 20, 20163 min read


Coast to Coast: Iowa to Palmyra, NY
When I got to Chicago I learned that my friends Kyle and Mary were just about to leave Chicago by train and we overlapped by 40 minutes....

Benjamin Schilaty
Jul 17, 20162 min read


Coast to Coast: Seattle to Iowa City
On June 30th my brother Jessen, his wife Laura (not to be confused with my friend fun Laura who will appear in later posts), their three...

Benjamin Schilaty
Jul 11, 20163 min read


What It Was Like in the Closet
Recently a straight friend of mine told me that he didn’t understand why coming out is such a struggle for people nowadays since being...

Benjamin Schilaty
Jun 28, 20165 min read


A Mystery, a Ghost, and a Foiled Plan
One of the super bummers of living in Arizona is that my friends don’t have the chance to get to know my parents. It’s a real shame. So...

Benjamin Schilaty
Jun 19, 20164 min read


Goldilocks and the Gay Mormon Paradox
I occasionally get messages from well-meaning people explaining to me what’s wrong with my life and how to fix it. “Marry a man,” they...

Benjamin Schilaty
May 5, 20169 min read


Thank you, Elder Holland, But I Wish You Had Said More
Last Tuesday was a super-stressful day. I'm winding down my grad school experience so I have a lot of "self-directed time" so work is...

Benjamin Schilaty
Mar 15, 20169 min read


How to Be a Gay Mormon's Hero
After a blog post I wrote back in June an anonymous commenter wrote: "Thank you for a well written post. Your impassioned writing had...

Benjamin Schilaty
Feb 8, 201610 min read


Is Being Gay a Weakness? A Gay Mormon's Perspective
Is being gay a weakness? This is a question that I have pondered many times. If you had asked 21 year old me this question I would have...

Benjamin Schilaty
Jan 19, 20165 min read


A Line in the Sand
On Thursday, November 5th I drove to California to visit my friends Ian and Amy. It had been more than a year since I'd seen them so...

Benjamin Schilaty
Nov 24, 20159 min read
Institute Devotional
Today I spoke at the Tucson LDS Institute about my experiences as a gay Mormon. A number of people who weren't able to attend asked me...

Benjamin Schilaty
Nov 13, 20151 min read


The Time I Almost Left the Church
A few people have asked me what I thought about Elder Holland’s talk during the October General Conference. Here are my thoughts on that...

Benjamin Schilaty
Oct 8, 201511 min read


I Know General Conference Is True
We Mormons like to use the word know a lot. We know the Book of Mormon is true. We know the church is true. We know that loads of...

Benjamin Schilaty
Sep 30, 20155 min read


LeAnne in the Land of Lincoln
I just got back from quite an adventure helping LeAnne move to Chicago from Salt Lake. The plan was to leave her house at 4:00 am last...

Benjamin Schilaty
Aug 17, 20151 min read


$21 of Forgetting
I apologize to anyone who is here looking for discussion on being gay and Mormon. My last blog post spread much more than I ever...

Benjamin Schilaty
Jul 9, 20154 min read
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